The Dos and Don’ts of Getting Married, According to Marry Me’s Casey Wilson and David Caspe

Casey Wilson, 33, met David Caspe, 35, when she auditioned for (and won a role in) his show, Happy Endings, in 2010. Two years of dating later, Caspe proposed—and Wilson moved in the next day. “I wouldn’t leave my place until I was engaged, but the minute he proposed, I was like, I’m out of this dump,” Wilson jokes. “I threw the match over my shoulder and never looked back.” The two got married on May 25, 2014—same weekend as Kimye—and are introducing their “baby,” NBC’s new riot of a rom-com series, Marry Me, to the world on October 14. (Caspe wrote it for Wilson, a Saturday Night Live alum, to star in. Sweet.) With marriage on their brains both on- and offscreen, the husband-and-wife duo share their hard-earned newlywed wisdom.

DO BE A RESPECTFUL ROOMMATE.

WILSON: When it comes to living styles, I’m very messy, and he’s—well, it’s not every day a man makes you take off your shoes and refuses to serve dark liquors at a party.

CASPE: I think everyone’s fine with white wine and vodka. We don’t need red wine on the white carpet.

WILSON: When David wanted someone to come help clean the house, I was concerned about the expense, but my friend shook me and said, “Casey, if you want to keep your marriage together, this will be your issue.” It’s important to David, so it was worth giving in.

__DON’T GET INTO AN ARGUMENT HANGRY.

WILSON:__ My dad always said that 90 percent of marital problems could be solved by getting your blood sugar up, and he’s right! So I would say pick a partner who’s forgiving when you have low blood sugar and threaten to drive your car through your shared home.

__DO KNOW: YOUR PARTNER WILL CHANGE YOU.

WILSON:__ David and I are incredibly different people. If we’re in a couple’s massage, I’ll talk the entire time to the masseuse; meanwhile, he’d rather be alone in a steel chamber for life. [Laughs.]

CASPE: If it weren’t for Casey, I’d stay in, watch TV, and order a cheeseburger. My life would be so boring. We center each other.

__DON’T EXPECT HIM TO BE YOUR GIRLFRIEND TOO.

WILSON:__ David’s a doer—he wants to give advice or fix things. My girlfriends [let me] turn over every emotional detail for hours. I see them at least twice a week.

CASPE: I’ve had to realize that if she shares a problem, I’m not supposed to fix it.

__DO TALK ABOUT IF AND WHEN YOU’LL HAVE KIDS. (ALLOW WILSON AND CASPE TO DEMONSTRATE.)

WILSON:__ Years ago everyone asked when we were having kids. Now they’re asking when we’re adopting grandkids.

CASPE: My dad started saying, “You know, it’s OK if she’s pregnant at the wedding….”

WILSON: I’d love to have kids. My mom always worked, and I certainly don’t want to look back and think, Well, I don’t have kids, but I’m glad I did that sitcom.

CASPE: I’m ready too. At a certain point it feels like, What are we doing?

WILSON: Sitting in the hot tub with Bud Lights? Eh, I’ve had plenty of “me” time.

__DON’T GO CRAZY TRYING TO SPICE UP YOUR SEX LIFE.

WILSON:__ We can’t improve on perfection. [Laughs.]

CASPE: Did the Mona Lisa change after she got married?

WILSON: Did they ask Michelangelo to remake David?

CASPE: No. It’s a masterpiece. Leave it as is, married or single. [Laughs.]

__DO HAVE A PLAN FOR HANDLING FINANCES.

CASPE:__ We’re meeting with a financial planner to combine our money. It’s an adjustment. For years it’s been my money that I’ve worked for and spent, but now it’s hers too. And hers is mine. I’m super proud of how hard Casey works.

WILSON: Maybe this is a good time to tell you I bought two speedboats. [Laughs.]

__DON’T TAKE YOUR FRIENDSHIP FOR GRANTED.

CASPE:__ As a kid, you weirdly picture a girlfriend as separate than a friend. But being with Casey, I realized a wife is the ultimate friend, and you also get to make sweet, sweet love together. [Laughs.]

WILSON: David….

CASPE: What? It’s true.