If you’re single and planning on wearing pajamas tomorrow night, let me tell you, that’s awesome! I know women who feel guilty, uncool, or anxious about staying in. But everyone needs down time, and there ain’t no shame. In fact, I would argue that spending time alone is good for you; it makes you a better person. Plus, it’s cool to fly solo on your couch. Here’s why:
1. You are making yourself a more desirable person. Take this time-out to recharge your batteries. Write in a journal and get to know yourself. Catch up on your DVR list—make yourself happy. When you understand your own feelings and behavior, or you do things to please yourself, you’re more likely to be a pleasure to be around.
2. You are saving money. Door fees, drinks, food, cabs, parking tickets…it’s expensive out there. So just think about how you’re taking care of your bank account. It’s good to be responsible once in a while, and when you do finally meet someone, you’ll want to have your finances in order anyway.
3. You are getting healthier. A Saturday night out could mean too much booze and late-night pizza dipped in Ranch dressing. Just think of how lounging on that La-Z-Boy recliner is actually saving you calories!
4. Use the night in to start your Sunday right. Get up the next morning and accomplish something that will make you feel confident or productive. You could go to the gym, a church service, or brunch with a friend you’ve been neglecting. Sometimes that is more important.
5. Remember that you are choosing to stay home. You’re not being sidelined. You’re not being lazy. You’re not unpopular. You could find something to do or invite someone somewhere if you really wanted to. And don’t let people make you feel guilty—I hate guilt trips. Sometimes you just can’t! This was your choice. You’re the boss. Now own it.
6. You’ll meet someone next Saturday. If you think you’re not doing enough, you’re just creating stress for yourself, and people pick up on that. So relax. Put up your feet. If it makes you feel better, make a plan of attack tonight, but don’t rush out to the nearest bar or single’s event simply because you worry the clock is ticking.
7. You are creating demand. By being absent from the scene, people will wonder where you are tonight, why didn’t they see you at so-and-so’s. It’s all about supply and demand!
__Do you ever feel guilty or lame for staying in? Do you think you’re not “doing enough”? (What is “enough,” anyway?) __
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