“My Boyfriend’s Roommate Walks Around Topless”

The #FreeTheNipple movement has made it more acceptable for women to be topless in front of others. And for the most part, that’s not a problem. But throwitaway25705‘s boyfriend’s female roommate is freeing the nipple all over their apartment, and it’s making her jealous. Should she be?

“She has done it before but has done it more since he got with me,” she writes. “Finally, I asked him why he is still with me if he could obviously have her. He tried to console me by having sex with me, but ignored my breasts. He earlier claimed that he didn’t want to tell her what to do in her own home and that he doesn’t want her.”

She also mentioned that she feels insecure because this woman has bigger breasts than her—which the roommate brought up when she tried to confront her about being topless, saying she can’t help it that she’s more well-endowed.

Is it fair of her to ask her boyfriend or his roommate to do anything about this? Or would that be infringing on her right to dress (or not dress) how she wants? Here’s what Reddit has to say:

“I’m very casual about nudity but I realize that a lot of people aren’t. Generally, I modify my behavior to avoid discomforting others. This girl is either a crazy militant about the whole ‘free the nipple’ thing, or she’s got other ambitions.” —backseat_adventurer

“It sounds like your boyfriend is not a boob man, or at least not a big boob man. Lots of guys like smaller breasts. You should tell him to give your breasts more attention in bed—he might have been avoiding them so as to not set you off. His roommate is terrible and if he’s as great as he seems, he will find a new place to live ASAP and NEVER let her answer the door/be alone with you.” —bravepig

“She has a right to walk around her house topless, and I [and] many of my friends with roommates do. But her comment to you was so rude and mean. Why didn’t he stand up for you?! Does this guy have a spine at all?” —panic_bread

“Call me conservative, but I find the roommate’s behavior very odd and [it] would make me uncomfortable (I’m a girl). Her and your BF are sharing an apartment, so no she doesn’t get to do ‘anything she wants’ because it’s ‘her apartment.’ If an action or behavior of hers becomes disruptive to your BF, then he has a right to tell her to stop. … Your BF is not standing up for you or being 100 percent honest with you. Chances are he enjoys seeing her topless and so is coming up with excuses why he hasn’t said anything. To me this is completely unacceptable.” —sour_lemons

“Am I the only one who thinks being topless in a male-female roommate situation is weird? Like…if I lived with a man platonically I wouldn’t just walk around topless. To me, its abnormal that she does this.” —booboo417

“I’m also a female who believes in ‘free the nipple’ and I have male roommates who have girlfriends, but I would never sit around my apartment topless, out of respect for their relationships.” —laurenrm

Have you ever dated someone who lived with another woman? How much closeness between them would cross the line for you?