Sex Tip From a Guy: Slow Down, Cowgirls

I have a personal motto: “Slow Down, Cowboy.” It’s written on my fridge. Actually, it’s sort of written on my fridge. What’s actually written on my fridge is “Slow Down, Cowbow,” with the “w” crossed out and drawn over with a “y.” That’s right, I drew the sign too quickly, and I messed it up. Ironic. But my hurried typo actually helps drive home the message: it’s important to take your time (and here comes the sex tip part), especially when giving head.

For a number of reasons, I can understand your desire to get it over with. For both sexes, if for those of us who genuinely enjoy performing oral sex, there can come a time when we just want to be done with it and move on. Our jaws hurt, our hands get tired, the neck starts to get stiff; please just come already.

But knowing this is no reason to rush. In fact, too many oral sex sessions start off too quickly, which can actually delay things in the end.

Ejaculation is as much mental as it is physical. Creating a situation where he’s relaxed, turned on and, most importantly, anticipatory, is as important as anything you do with your lips, tongue, throat or hands.

Consider starting very slow with deep passionate licks up and down his thighs, around his testicles and the base of his shaft. Go down on his belly button and man-tummy for a while. Tickle his boy-gina with your tongue. Give him a light job (this is where you give him a handjob but barely touch his penis, so it’s like half-caress, half HJ. And do all of this for minutes, not seconds, before you even consider putting his penis in your mouth.

When you finally do leap that canyon, again, take your time. Start super slow and work up to the rhythm you normally start with. Take your time. You’ll notice a difference, and it may even speed things up.

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