You probably don’t need us to tell you that sharing a bed with your significant other isn’t always all it’s cracked up to be. For one thing, there’s often that pesky extra arm when you try to cuddle. And then, of course, there’s the challenge of actually falling asleep when your partner is tossing, turning, and snoring. According to a new study by the University of Leeds and Silentnight, these issues are more than just annoying. In fact, your S.O. could end up affecting your sleep so much that your nights together could actually damage your health.
Of the people surveyed, 29 percent said their partner was an obstacle to their sleep. And not sleeping through the night can hurt everything—from your mood to your skin to your eating habits.
“It’s rare that you find two people with the same sleeping habits, and so sharing a bed can be a difficult and potentially sleep-depriving process,” Dr. Guy Meadows, co-founder of The Sleep School, told The Daily Mail.
“So, for many people, it’s clear that sleeping in separate rooms might make for a better, more restful sleep,” echoed Silentnight sleep expert Dr. Nerina Ramlakhan. But it’s more complicated than that, she says: 36 percent of people have trouble sleeping if they can’t kiss their S.O. goodnight, according to an LM Research study. So there’s some research to support whichever way you lean.
In any case, don’t feel bad about spending more nights at your own place—especially if you’re willing to sacrifice a solid night of sleep for a little bit of love. You just may want to make up for it by sleeping in on the weekends.