Last week, we chatted about an anonymous sex blogger who was fired from her job when her boss discovered her racy site. We were all pretty concerned about her situation so I thought it’d be kind of neat to talk with two more anonymous sex bloggers about their titillating URLs.
I had the extreme pleasure of speaking with Vibin’ Vixen and Gwen of Gwen In Love about their blogs, why they keep their identities a secret and oh yeah, sex.
Smitten: How would you describe your blog?
Vibin’ Vixen: The Vibin’ Vixen blog will give you tips, tricks and honest advice on all the popular sex toys that are out there. I’m not a doctor, I’m not a porn star…..just a working professional who also likes to have a little fun in the bedroom after hours. I give you ideas of how to keep the romance and spark alive whether you’re dating, in a serious relationship, married or even your relationship with yourself.
Gwen: An old-fashioned girl’s guide to love, marriage and rockin’ hot sex.
Smitten: Why did you start a sex blog?
Gwen: Boyfriend became husband about eight years ago. It just keeps getting better all the time. I’d hate to say “my marriage is more awesome than your marriage,” but, my marriage is more awesome than your marriage.
In all seriousness, this has not always been the case. Reality set in. There were bills and jobs, flat tires and flat hair. And those babies we wanted? They cried—a lot. My perky boobs sagged and those last five pounds of baby weight stayed. We were no longer putting our marriage first. And the sex was so not rockin’ hot.
This seemed to be the story amongst most of my girlfriends as well and it scared me. The thought of divorce, or worse, living in a loveless and lifeless marriage, propelled me to action. I chose to change. Instead of dreading sex and thinking up excuses to avoid it, I took control and initiated it. Sex everyday for a year was my goal. No more waiting around to be given an orgasm either. If I wanted an orgasm, I was going to have an orgasm. With each orgasm I cared a little bit less about the saggy boobs. I learned that
Husband didn’t care if my boobs were saggy—they are boobs! Initiating sex made Husband feel more like a man. He felt desired. His increased self-confidence led to a greater ability to show love for me. And then one day it happened—he did the dishes. And that’s how my marriage became more awesome than your marriage.
I started my blog, Gwen in Love, to share these secrets with other women, to tell them how much power they have. You can have babies, bills, and a rockin’ hot sex life. Who knew?
Vibin’ Vixen: I started it because over the years I became the go to’ girl that everyone would talk to about sex toys. After scouring the internet for honest advice from normal women I realized that part of the industry was untapped. The only people openly talking about sex were the porn stars, professionals or sex toy companies talking up their own toys. There are a lot of average ladies just like me out there that aren’t interested in bondage or over the top sex acts. We just want to know what gets us off! It’s funny because I never even owned a sex toy until I was in college. After I got my first toy (a silver bullet) I was hooked.
Smitten: Are you anonymous for professional reasons?
Gwen: I keep my blog anonymous so I can share my thoughts and ideas more freely. Sometimes I even use experiences of friends and family. Readers often feel more comfortable submitting questions and ideas this way.
Vibin’ Vixen: I like to stay anonymous for professional and personal reasons. Although sex is such a natural thing it can really change a person’s perception of you. I felt that if everyone knew it was me they would look at me differently. I get into some very personal details in my blog which could potentially damage my career. Plus….who wants their dad reading about their personal sex life?! Gross.
Smitten: What do you do for a living?
Gwen: I am a Stay-At-Home Wife and Mother.
Vibin’ Vixen: I work in the fashion industry which is a very small community!
Smitten: So, does anyone know you have a sex blog?
Gwen: Only Husband knows.
Vibin’ Vixen: Only a few close friends, my sister and my boyfriend–named Cowboy in my blog.
Lucky Husband and lucky Cowboy, huh? Thanks ladies!
Clearly I’m pretty open about sharing my sex life with the interwebs, but what about you dolls? Would you blog about sex at all? If so, would you keep your identity a secret? Do you have a blog? Do you friends and family know about it? What about your boss? If you don’t have a blog already, what kind could you see yourself creating?
P.S. Speaking of bloggers, yours truly is taking some time off to get married! I’ll be back next week but in the meantime, my wonderful Glamour editors have a few guest bloggers lined up—I just know you’ll love em. Have an excellent week, my dears and the next time you hear from me, I’ll be known as Rosemary Brennan Johnson! I’ll miss you guys, virtual hugs and kisses to all of you!
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